The best advice I can give you is to read

everything over once. If you can, do it in

one sitting, then re read it again. Then,

read the sections again that you are not sure

about, and if you can, get someone else to

read it as well, and both of you make notes.

There are plenty of website links in this

book so it probably is best to read this book

while you are online so you can see exactly

what I'm talking about through out the book.

I hope by the time you finish this book you

will realize just how powerful this

information is. This is not some rehashed

dating manual which spews out bad information

that will HURT your chances of dating

successfully.

This book isn't written by a prolific writer

who's job it is to churn out books by the

dozen which he has no expertise on, it's

written by a guy who struggled for years to

realize exactly what it is that turns women

on and off.

This book is for all the guys out there who

are sick of being told "I just want to be

friends" or "you're a really nice guy but

It's just not the right time in my life for a

relationship" and about one hundred other

excuses I've heard over and over again.

This book doesn't just cover Internet dating,

it covers all the aspects of what make men

successful with women.

Internet dating has made meeting beautiful

women so much easier, hence why I've been

using it for the last 2 years with great

success.

I get asked this question all the time. Why

use Internet dating over any other method of

meeting women?

I mean, there are hundreds of ways to meet

women and they are all great and have their

advantages.

Speed dating

Singles events

Through friends

Offline dating agencies

Personal ads

In bars and nightclubs

Taking courses at local colleges

And the list goes on and on.....

BUT

Internet dating is KING and here is why.

It's cheap

It's quick

It's fun

It's simple to use

There are thousands of women in your area now

online

And the biggest reason of all, IT'S A GREAT

PLACE TO LEARN WITHOUT THE FEAR OF FACE TO

FACE REJECTION!

Like it or not, rejection is part of the

dating process, even the hottest most

successful guys with dating get rejected more

times then they hear a yes.

In some ways dating is a numbers game, but

most men have TERRIBLE odds when it comes to

dating. My job in this book is to lower the

odds for you and make you more successful

with the type of women you want to date.....

and I know you're busy, that's why Internet

dating is great. Put up a profile, tweak it a

bit until it sounds good and away you go.

It's your own automated dating machine thats

up 24/7 attracting women around the clock.

You don't have to be attractive, rich or

anything like that. In fact, the guys I know

who are most successful with women don't have

a lot of money and they are just average

looking men, nothing special about them,

except they know what women want, they behave

and hold themselves in ways women find

attractive.

I'm a skinny guy, bout 6'3, by no means ugly,

but by no means a bulging muscle bound model.

I've always been a little shy, which is fine,

always been a little awkward in social

situations, never had much confidence in

myself around women.

I had NO luck with dating. When I was 16 I

got lucky and landed a girlfriend, and we

were together for 3 years, but after that, I

went 3 years without even 1 date. Partly

because I was consumed with work and partly

because I was turning women off with the way

I acted around them.

But about 2 years ago I got fed up with being

dateless and looking around and seeing UGLY

guys with girlfriends and in most cases HOT

girls. I thought if these guys are meeting

these women and they're not rich, successful

or even good looking, I must be doing

something wrong.

What these guys had that I didn't have was

the right attitude, the right frame of mind,

and I get into this in the next chapter.

So I learned everything I could about women,

psychology, what makes women attracted to

certain types of guys and I even read a book

called "sperm wars" which is all about

evolution.

I now am able to meet, talk to and date

beautiful women like it's the easiest thing

in the world to do, and the only thing that

changed about me was my attitude and the

skills and knowledge I learnt from making

lots of mistakes.

I didn't get more attractive, I didn't become

mega rich, I just learnt to be what women

want.

For women attraction isn't a choice, they

either feel it for you or they don't, it's

that simple. If a woman doesn't feel

attraction for you from the start, they more

then likely never will.

You cannot convince a woman to feel

attraction for you. Let me explain,

Just because you're rich, attractive,

successful, drive a nice car, take her to

fancy dinners, buy her expensive things, that

won't make her feel attraction for you.

I know, it's not logical I get it, but women

don't choose mates on logic. They might say

they do, but they don't.

Women choose mates by their level of

attraction they have for them (unless they

are money hungry women after you for only

your wallet) and not for what you can give

them in return.

Men seem to think bribing women with gifts

will make them fall in love with you, but it

has the total opposite effect, women see this

as you needing their approval because you

don't think you are worthy enough to date

them without having to buy them things in

return.

Why do you think so many women get into

relationships with bad boys who treat them

terribly? Because these guys trigger an

attraction inside these women. It's not

logical, I know, but it's a fact.

I'm not saying you have to treat women

terribly to make them feel attraction for

you, but you don't have to cater to a woman's

every need.

Women would rather date a poor guy with no

money who's charming, funny, cocky and just a

fun date then a guy who's rich, buys them

things and is stuffy and boring.

Women want what women want and you can either

be what they want or be what they don't want,

it's your choice.

This book isn't about changing you to suit

women, it's about showing you that you don't

need to do all these things to make women

attracted to you, you don't need to bribe

them, you don't need to stress if one woman

doesn't like you, this is your life, you

choose who you date, not the other way

around.

Women when asked will say they want a nice

guy who treats them like a princess and

pretty much has no balls of his own. They

like the idea of getting flowers and having a

sensitive guy to talk to about their

problems.

All women will tell you they want to date the

nice guy or that they can never seem to find

a nice guy to date.

The problem is, this isn't exactly correct.

These women aren't lying when they say they

want these things.... on the surface they do,

because it makes sense, it makes sense to

want a guy like this, but on a subconscious

level, they really want a man who takes

control and acts like a man should

So what qualities do women want in men?

What they've always wanted and always will

want. Women want their men to be men and not

wussy boys who ask for approval to scratch

their noses.

I know this sounds harsh, but it's true.

Have you ever noticed the following?

When you give a girl a compliment or tell a

girl how beautiful she is she shys away from

you?

BUT

When you notice a flaw about her she will get

more involved in the conversation and take

you more seriously.

Have you ever noticed....

When you buy girls gifts and take them to

expensive dinners they end up later that

night thanking you for a great evening and

going out with another guy?

BUT

If you just go for a quick drink and act like

you are equals she feels attracted to you

because you're not catering to her every

whim.

Have you noticed when....

You call a girl often after a date and she

seems distant and funny

BUT

When you don't call her and you act like

you're busy and could live with her or

without her, she won't stop calling you.

WOMEN DON'T WANT TO BE CATERED TO, HOUNDED,

TREATED LIKE PRINCESSES OR ANY OTHER RUBBISH

YOUR MOTHER TOLD YOU ABOUT DATING.

This is from my experience what women want

from a man.....

Want to learn how to do those things.... read

on!

This whole section is some of the most

powerful information you will ever read, not

just about dating but about life in general.

When your life is going to plan, you feel

confident and when you feel confident, you

exude a persona that naturally attracts

people and makes them want to be around you.

No one likes dating a sad sack.

These rules are what I live my life by and

were written by me for me, I never thought I

would share these rules with anyone except

maybe my future children.

People who have real confidence in themselves

attract people naturally. People can tell

when you are confident with yourself and

where you are going with your life.

If you're not confident in yourself, why? Is

it because you have no money? Is it because

you think you're overweight or ugly?

All of this can be overcome with confidence.

Honestly, girls (girls we want to date) don't

care a lot about these things. Of course, if

you are really over weight and you have bad

teeth and you dress like a hobo, change

yourself.

It's that simple. If you want to be sucessful

with women, you can't hide behind excuses to

fail.

I know a lot of men who arn't rich and arn't

good looking who are very successful with

women because they act like they are good

looking and they are rich, they act in ways

that make men and women naturally attracted

to them.

A happy go lucky guy who smiles a lot will

get x10 the amount of attention as a sad sack

sitting in the corner no matter how hot or

rich he is.

Be happy with yourself, but if there is

something holding you back from being a more

outgoing person, fix it.

I had a large mole on my face and while no

women seemed to care about it, it made me

feel selfconscious and I didn't feel

confident in my looks, so I got it removed.

The only real different I see now is not in

my looks but in my personality. I feel better

about MYSELF and I did it for MYSELF, I

didn't do it for women's approval, I did it

because I wanted to be more outgoing and feel

better about myself.

As you can tell these rules are not in any

particular order but when you first start

dating someone, act calm, be cool.

Especially on the first date, be cool. Don't

be nervous, don't get all excited and act

like a goof.

Don't act desperate around women, just be

yourself and not worry about the outcome,

dating should be fun!

Being cocky to me means not being afraid to

joke around with women. Men are so scared to

be themselves around women that they act all

uptight and nervous and are not sure what to

say.

Don't worry about. Most men by nature are not

big mouth arrogant SOB's, so just say what's

on your mind.

Talking about sex and other taboo subjects is

FINE. Teasing a girl lightly is fine, as long

as it's funny and a little bit cocky.

Be the fun guy to hang around, make dating

fun for you and her.

This rule IS SO IMPORTANT when you start

dating someone more seriously. I made this

mistake a couple of times early on and the

relationships ended pretty soon after.

If a woman says something to you that makes

you feel nervous, angry, upset and you feel

like you're going to get overly emotional and

say something you will regret, FOR THE GOOD

OF YOUR SANITY, Don't say anything.

It's a lot easier to say nothing then it is

to take something stupid back. Think before

you speak. Women will always do this. Women

will blame you for things that are not your

fault, things will happen in their lives that

make them emotional, you're job is to stay

calm.

I'll give you a personal example. I started

dating a girl I REALLY liked, but a couple of

weeks into the relationship, she told me she

was pregnant and she wasn't sure who the

father was, because before she started dating

me, she was seeing two other guys.

I freaked out, and you probably think, well

rightly so, and it was probably for the best

things ended, but, breaking up with someone

is better when you're the one breaking up

with the girl

I know this sounds childish, but it's true.

It's a mental thing. Being dumped is a

horrible feeling and take's longer to get

over.

Girls like a guy who will lead in the

relationship. I don't mean bossy, I mean

lead. It's a manly thing to do.

When a woman asks what you want to do, don't

reply back, "I dunno, what do you want to

do", take the bull by the horn's and make a

decision. I know it's a bit of a pain to be

the one who does this all the time, but it

really works.

I also added a part about my dad in this

rule. He is one of those old fashioned type

of guy's, always leads, makes executive

decions. He isn't wishy washy.

Also, when women throw things at you that

you're not expecting, never over react, I

touched on this just before, and I'm going to

again.

If a girl says she's going out with male

friends, or seeing an ex boyfriend, don't

flip your lid, this is the quickest way to

push her away.

Just say things like, "you do what you wanna

do", "it's your life, I'm not your father,

have fun". Saying things like this make you

sound confident in yourself and don't really

care what she does.

Begging her not to go and doing all sorts of

crazy things guys do will push her away for

good.

Most of you are probally thinking how am I

going to remember all these things, and

you're not suppose to really. Use them all,

or use just a few, refer to them often and

they will sink in over time.

But if you only remember one dating rule,

this is it.

Always keep busy! Never make too much time

for a girl when you first start dating. All

the other rules will fall into place if you

just follow this one.

When you're sitting at home with nothing to

do, you will be tempted to want to ring any

girl you're dating too much and you will

become too available.

If she's says lets make plans for tuesday,

say no you're busy, how about wednesday.

Get a hobby, play a sport, go out more with

your friends and if you don't have any

friends, make some!

Keep your mind busy and everything else will

fall into place because you will be too busy

with your life to care what she is doing. She

will be just a nice little extra in your

life, not your whole life!

Keep busy guys!

Again, this goes with keeping busy. Never see

a girl more then twice a week for at least

the first 10 to 20 dates. Seriously. I know

you will want to spend all your time with

someone if you think she's the one, but, you

need to build the attraction, not force it.

This way is best for both of you. I feel most

guys will settle for a girl because she wants

a relationship, even tho she might not be the

girl for him.

Take your time, have fun, date multiple

women, it's ok.

Every one has a past, and if I've made any

mistake too much, its this one. You have to

accept people for who they are, if you really

like someone, leave the past where it

belongs, in the past.

We all have baggage. Of course, there are

limits.

What is it with guys and writing sappy

letters or emails when they feel like they

are losing the girl or have lost the girl.

If a girl breaks up with you, let it go, move

on with your life, start dating again and you

will find this will bring back love quicker

then a sappy email professing your undying

love for the girl.

Think before you speak, think before you

type!

I don't know what it is, but when your

talking about something your passionate

about, people are naturally attracted to you.

I use to date a girl who played guitar and

she was so passionate about it, it was a real

turn on. She knew what she wanted to be and I

found that sexy.

Same thing applies to men. I tell girls about

my dream of running the largest publishing

company in the world one day and girls find

my passion and that idea really attractive.

This is a real turn off for women. Guys have

a habit of appologising for girls bad

behaviours and it's not on.

Women see this as a sign of weakness. If a

girl is doing something or saying something

you don't like, tell her that. If she's

acting bratty, tell her that.

Don't put up with moody behaviour just

because she thinks you deserve to be treated

that way, you don't.

I must admit, one date I did take the cocky

and funny routine a bit far and probably was

a bit more relaxed then I should have been

and I came across very arrogant and

sarcastic.

Arrogance is a huge turn off and there is a

fine line between that and cocky and funny.

Girls don't care if you're not buff, but

looks are important too. Take care of your

body if for no one else but yourself.

I do 100 setups, 100 pushups every day. I do

a light weight session focusing on building

bigger arms and chest muscles. I also run 3

times a week. This is a perfect workout that

takes very little time out of your week and

will make you look and feel a lot better

inside and out, I guarantee it!

Nothing in life is worth letting your life go

down the drains for. If something bad

happens, pick yourself up, don't stop working

or letting your finances suffer.

Read lots, watch documentaries, take courses

and travel all you can. You'll thank me for

this advice one day.

Life is full of little surprises, just like

dating, but let them rattle you, just keep

going on with your life like nothing

happened.

He who angers you becomes your master.

This is something you must do. Everyone has

goals for life, I don't care if it's only 4

things, write them down and check them off.

I have close to 100 things I want to do

before I do, like learn to speak German, go

to Oktoberfest, things like that.

I also have more serious things like, Run the

largest publishing company in the world,

which I still quite haven't checked off yet ;)

Nothing lowers the level of conversation more

than raising the voice.

Like I said in the above section, I've made

mistakes before and at the time I thought I

was the biggest idiot, but it's all a part of

learning how to be successful with women.

No one is perfect and it's ok to have quirky

little habits, no woman expects you to be

perfect or a dating robot that knows exactly

what to do at all times.

The main thing is to make sure it doesn't get

you down and you don't stop trying if you

have a bad experience. Every woman isn't

going to like you and vice versa, but....

You miss 100% of all shots you don't take!

There are THOUSANDS of online dating sites

out there, so what one's best for you?

The MOST IMPORTANT aspect of any successful

Internet dating venture is your online

profile. Personally, I use 2 profiles to

attract dates.

The bad boy profile which attracts a certain

more wilder person, and the nice guy profile

that attracts the nice girls you would be

proud to bring home to mother.

Feel free to steal and change these profiles.

What ever you do, don't just copy them as

they are, it would look stupid seeing

hundreds of profiles online exactly the same,

and besides, you really should put your own

personality into it, as this profile is about

you and not about me.

Of course, you can use them as is if you

want, but you will get better results if you

tweak them to suit your personality.

If you are the more cocky and confident

person, use the "bad boy" profile, but make

sure you are the same person online as you

are offline or it will be a waste of time.

You must also have a photo on your profile!

If they give you room to put up more then one

photo, don't do it, just put one good photo

up of you.

Intro: Top 10 ways to scare any guy off,

including me, inside

Interests:

Music: Dance, trance, house, you know what

I'm talking about. Ministry of sound etc. I

also watch Video Hits, so you can rest assure

that I'm up to date with every new rappers

name and criminal record.

Reading: I read anything I can get my hands

on. I run a publishing company, so I get paid

to read.

Movies: Comedies! Love a good comedy. Teen

comedies. Anything with breasts. Also

anything set in the 18th and 19th century

like Horn blower, Napoleon and boring crap

like that. James bond!

Sport: I play professional cricket and

basketball/league for fun. Like extreme

sports and paintball. No, not laser skirmish,

ugh. Yes, I'm going to list going to the gym

because I ACTUALLY do it.

Other interests: Sitting in my hot tub looking

out over the city listening to dance music.

Love to travel, spent 6 months living in

Spain and 2 years living in Perth. Cars,

imports (supra's!) and SUV's.

Profile Body:

10. Tell him that he looks like your father

9. Tell him that he looks like your mother

8. Talk about your doll collection in third

person

7. Talk about your recent hernia operation

6. Showing him the hernia in a jar

5. Confessing your love for hitler on the

first date. You should wait at least 2 or 3

dates for that one.

4. Talk about your co workers annoying habits

while pinching food off his plate.

3. Talk about children and marriage on the

first date.

2. Say you look nothing like your photo after

you sent him a photo of imogen bailey

1. Last but not least, never say "I've seen

bigger" about any part of his body

Now if you promise not to talk about these

things send me an email. Be warned I'm not

looking for pen pals. I'm too much fun to be

around to just leave it at writing emails.

Next week I'll list the top 10 things guys

don't want to hear women say, including my

favorite, "That's not the way my ex did it".

Relationship sought: Short-term or Long-term

Relationship with a Female

Ideal partner:

Between 18 and 45 years old

Incredibly intelligent and amazingly

beautiful. Someone who finds my jokes funny

is a plus. No stalkers or clingy people

please, I'm not sure what I'm looking for,

but I know its not that. Someone who believes

anything in life is possible, because it is!

Intro: New to the scene.....

Interests:

Music: Most types, whatever is good at the

time

Reading: Horror, Drama

Movies: Horror, Comedy, Drama

Sport: Swimming, Tennis, Rugby

Other interests: Art

Profile Body:

I'm an easy going nice guy, trying to find

the right person, I enjoy intellectual

conversations, late night beach walks,

clubbing, music of most types, reading,

tennis and swimming, among other things. Love

pets, dogs and cats mainly, so you would need

to be an animal lover.

I might party hard, but I also enjoy quiet

nights at home watching a DVD, or doing

things that couples do in their own private

space.

With that said, I'm the type of guy of both

extremes, so finding someone willing to spend

quality time with has been more difficult

then first thought, hence signing up with

this site, hopefully it works out well???

Relationship sought: Short-term or Long-term

Relationship with a Male or Female

Ideal partner:

Between 18 and 35 years old

I'm looking for someone who is understanding,

uses common sense, someone who is confident

in themself and knows where they're going in

life, and are happy with that direction. Age

doesn't mean that much to me, as long as

there is a connection, building rapport

between one another is important.

Intro: A stick insect walks into a bar...

Interests:

Music: club mixes, trance, ministry of sound

stuff and old stuff , rolling stones, acdc,

80's. Fav track at the moment is scott bond

vs solarstone 3rd earth remix.

Reading: yes, i can read. that's why i buy

those magazines, for the articles. Not the

pictures, I swear.

Movies: lord of the rings trilogy,

matrix. first two, third was...disappointing.

art house. subtitles don't scare me and we've

already established that I can read.

Currently hooked on Asian martial arts movies

tho the only thing I know about 'kung fu' is

how to spell it.

Sport: Not so much sport as fitness, gym,

bike, run, kayak, ill have a go at most

things. Also follow motor sport (mostly bikes)

and golf. And, in a reversal of male / female

stereotypes, you go to the footy, I'll stay

home and watch the grass grow.

Other interests: many and varied. you should

ask me.

Profile Body:

I figure talking to yourself is acceptable

but talking to yourself in a pirates voice

probably isn't. I started doing that today

and I figure I need to get out more and meet

some people before I topple over the brink

into complete madness. Don't be alarmed thou,

all the sharp utensils are under lock and

key.

OK, I realize this profile tends more toward

the humorous rather than the serious which i

guess is indicative of my personality so here

are some details which might help to round

out the picture.

I work as a paid firefighter, a job i love

and have been doing for over 155 years. Days

off are spent keeping fit, reading, going to

the movies, riding bikes...both mountain and

motor and, of course, looking for my

favorite hat.

I have a large family whom i see fairly often

but not often enough. I grew up in the

country (or should i say i got older in the

country) but, after 20 years in Melbourne,

any trace of the "country boy" is well and

truly gone.

Whilst I have your attention, can you please

be who, and what, you say you are in your

profile.

Ideal partner:

Between 25 and 42 years old , at most

5'7"/170 cm from AUSTRALIA

Hmmmmmm, Fit, fun, confident, adventurous,

young or young at heart and can tell me where

I left my favorite hat. It's got to be around

here somewhere. Oh, on the off chance you do

feel sufficiently inspired to send me a kiss,

please include your photo password if

applicable ;-)

Ok, so you're online, you're searching for

profiles of other women and you find a few

you want to email, what next?

The first email is crucial. You have to

remember, women are getting sometimes

hundreds of emails a day, so you have to

stand out straight away!

Just like in marketing, your headline should

be

eye grabbing!

The best way to do this is to mention

something about her profile in your headline.

I've made the mistake of writing things like

"hey there" in the subject heading and it's

really not a good idea.

If in the photo she puts on her profile,

she's wearing something unique comment on it.

Where did you get that necklace from?

I don't think you're going to like me....

That top you are wearing is....

You're lucky I emailed you!

etc....

Things like that get a woman's attention when

she's reading her email.

That's the first mistake most people make, the

second one is they write too much in their

first email! They write a whole life story.

Just keep it short and sweet.

Heya,

If you want to have an enthralling chat/get

to know me better my msn address is

myemailaddress@here.com so that's the place

to do it, or even better, over a crownie or 3

:) I live in Robertson, near sunnybank

plaza/garden city.

I'm off to try and find a place that does a

decent oysters kilpatrick, so have a good

night.

Cheers

your name, your profile id name

P.S. make a funny comment here about her

profile/suggest if she doesn't have msn to

either download it or buy you a beer and meet

up instead.

Notice I don't try and get an email

relationship happening, you need to hook your

date quickly.

You need to get from one step to the other

quickly.

If she emails you back and says she doesn't

have msn or any instant chat device, ask her

for her phone number.

It's that simple. Don't become email buddies!

Ok, so you've got the girl on msn or ICQ or

whatever you want to use, what next?

Chatting online is the best way to work on

chatting to women without the fear of being

nervous or making a fool of yourself in

public. Just have fun and go with the flow.

Don't bog the conversation down with general

chit chat. Talking about the weather, what

she does for a living are things you can talk

about when you're dating.

The idea of chatting online is to get the

girls phone number and move to the next step.

Here is a sample conversation I had with a

girl very recently after moving her from

email to msn....

Me: hey stinky, how goes it

Her: I do no stink

Her: I'm good, feelin better

Her: And u?

Me: Much better

Me: So when are you going to buy me that

beer?

Me: I'm busy this weekend and I want to make

sure you are completely over your cold so you

don't infect me by sitting to close to me.

Her: hahah, I won't infect you promise!

Me: Give me your mobile # and I'll give you a

call when I'm not busy, I want to make sure

you're really not a 59 year old man, who's

overweight.

Her: Oh yah, because being overweight would

make all the difference.

Me: Stop stalling and give me the digits....

:P

Her: Ok, (number here), just don't stalk me.

Me: No worries about that, it's my week off.

Ne way, gotta run, I'll ring you when I'm

free.

And that is how it's done my friends.

93% of all communication is done with your

voice tone and body language. If you ring up

a woman asking for a date and you sound like

Mickey mouse and are all nervous, you've

blown it straight away, no questions asked.

Again, the idea of using the phone is to get

the date, not to have a general chit chat.

Most guys have this habit of speaking for

ages on the phone and not getting to the

point.

Before you ring, think about what you are

going to say, how you are going to say it and

what you are going to say if she throws a

curve ball at you.

Go into the phone call with a plan, think

about what you are going to say and you will

be fine.

Too many people fear confrontation, just ask

for the date and if she says no, she says no,

just move on.

If you don't get a returned call you should

probably move on, happy that you didn't waste

another moment with a rude jerk.

If, on the other hand you're the adventurous

type, you can try this. Call the person up,

but don't leave messages on their answering

machine or voice mail. Wait for the person to

answer.

Just so you know, phones these days usually

tell people who has called, hung-up, when and

how many times, so please don't ring 50 times

a day, because more then likely they will

know you were doing it and it looks a bit

stalkerish.

If after you called a few times over a few

days and no one picks up, leave a short,

funny message about not being able to get a

hold of her and she can ring you back.

So you've got the date but you have no idea

where you are going to go on your first date?

The best date in my opinion goes as follows.

You ring up the girl, tell her to meet you at

your favorite cafe or bar for a quick drink.

Chat for an hour or so, call it a night, go

home.

That's what works for me and for every guy I

know who is good with dating.

Guys try and impress to hard on first dates

and take them to the most expensive

restaurants and buy them fancy dinners.

If end up spending more then $20 on a date,

its too much. I can remember the best date of

my life I brought 2 beers and she brought a

wine and that was it.

We chatted for an hour or so, I ended the

night and went home.

Make sure you never let your first dates go

for too long, I never let them go over 2

hours and most only last an hour or so.

It's not about how long you spend on the date

or how much money you spend, its about the

impression you leave on the girl.

If you are funny and confident and the girl

has a blast, all you need is an hour.

Yes, I've taken girls home after a first date

like this, but I don't recommend it.

Like I said in the previous chapter, body

language and voice tone are so important when

dating. You want to speak with confidence,

walk with confidence and BE confident.

Here are a few tips I use.

- Do everything slowly

What I mean by that is don't look like your

panicked or in a rush. Make every movement

deliberate and cool.

- Walk slowly and upright

When you're walking, always walk with your

shoulders back and slowly. Stand upright with

good posture and stick your chest out and

look around like you own the place.

- When sitting, lean back in your chair

Don't lean right forward and smother the

girl, give her space, lean right back and

look like you're too comfortable.

- Maintain eye contact and never mumble

Always look at her in the eyes when you're

talking and never mumble or cover your mouth

when you speak.

Take a drive down to the beach and walk and

talk. It's a cheap date and a good way to

find out about the other person.

Ring up your local pool hall, find out when

its the quietest and go have a game of pool

together.

Go to mini golf. The beauty of mini golf is

there will be a lot of other couples around

as well and families, so it makes for a

comfortable setting.

Take your date to a concert. If you've been

friends with this person for a while, you'll

know what he or she likes and you can work on

that. If you don't know the person well,

Take your date on a picnic by the water. Make

sure there are plenty of rest rooms and

shelter around just in case.

Go to the casino. This is not everyone's cup

of tea, but what could be more exciting then

winning big. They will never forget it.

Go go-karting. This is a great way to find

out if your date will try just about anything

once.

Take your date golfing. Find a local golf

course that caters to beginners and do only 9

holes.

Go to the golf driving range. This is

probably a better idea then golfing, it's

cheaper, shorter in time and more fun.

Have your palms read. Most women find this

sort of thing very interesting.

Take a limo ride around the city. To find the

best deals, use the Internet to find local

companies with websites.

Go to a roof top or revolving restaurant.

Eating outdoors always makes things more

memorable, just remember to make a booking

first.

Go to a day spa together and get a massage.

Go on the Internet to find the best deals.

Go hot air ballooning. Probably not the ideal

first date as it's a little expensive and hot

air ballooning is done very early in the

morning.

Go on a lunch date. Perfect idea if you work

together, just make sure your date knows it's

a date and not a friendly outing.

Go to a local museum. The most popular types

of museums are the interactive types, with

displays, not things like art galleries.

If your date is the sporting type, take her

to a local sporting event. You could even go

to a college game.

If you know how to ride a motorbike, take

your date for a ride somewhere scenic or at

nighttime in the city.

Go to the batting cages. Not everyone's idea

of a great date, but you'll soon find out if

your date is easy going or high matainence.

Frisbee golf is another date idea that will

certainly tell you what type of person you

are dating. If you are not sure what Frisbee

golf is, go to Google. COM and look it up,

it's a lot of fun.

Go to your local jazz club and relax.

Everyone loves jazz.

Go to the zoo. Most zoo's have nigh time

exhibits or exhibits out of the norm for

people to see.

Go to the local fair. Every year we have a

local fair where I live that has show bags,

rides etc.

Getting up early and going to the flea

markets is a very cheap and fun date. If you

are not big on sitting down and talking, this

is the date for you.

Take your date for dinner on the boardwalk.

Very romantic!

Girls have a tendency to be their own worst

enemy when it comes to killing attraction. If

a girl had a really great time with you, she

will ring you constantly, but it's your job

as the man to control the relationship.

You don't have to pick up the phone everytime

she rings you know.

Talking to each other constantly will ruin

the attraction when you first start dating.

Here is what I do after a good date.

I ring her the next day, tell her I had a

great, hope she did too, make some sort of

funny comment, and go, "well, I gotta go, I'm

pretty busy, so have fun, bye".

As you noticed, I didn't ask for a second

date straight off the bat. I want her

wondering about me for a while, building

anticipation. I don't want to come across as

needy and desperate.

Don't text her, don't email her, don't talk

to her on msn, icq and don't ring her for a

few days, then out of the blue, ask her for a

second date.

If she rings you, you can pick up and go I'm

kinda busy right now, and can't talk, so why

don't we meet up, Tuesday next week at this

place.

She basically did the asking out for you by

ringing back and you don't come off as needy

and desperate because you make it look like

it was her idea!

Never see a girl more then 2 times a week

when you are first dating for the first few

months and you should be dating other women.

Most men think that dating multiple women at

the same time is a wrong thing to do and it's

cheating. They couldn't be farther from the

truth my friend.

Men think this because women have told them

that guys who date other girls at the same

time are scum, yet they continue to date

them....

I'm not talking about sleeping with millions

of women every week, I'm talking about going

out and having fun and meeting new people in

a friendly environment.

If a woman says after a few dates, I think we

should date exclusively, you have to ask

yourself if that's what you want, do you want

a relationship, because that is pretty much

what she is asking.

Just be honest with everyone you date from

day one and there will be no problems what so

ever if you want to date multiple women at

the same time.

Just don't cheat on someone if you said you

would date them exclusively, don't be a jerk

and treat women badly, just be honest and

have fun and they will respect you for it.

Even the most confident people have

situations that cause them to be shy. Even

famous personalities and very successful

business people experience shyness at times.

(if only they knew the best ways to overcome

shyness)

Shyness is nothing to be ashamed of and you

can overcome it when you learn the right way

to go about it. The problem is that you have

not been exposed to accurate, proven ways to

deal with shyness.

Shyness can be defined as having difficulty

creating a rapport with other people. For

many people, shyness can mean having a hard

time thinking of things to say in a social

setting.

For others it can include physical symptoms

of apprehension.

For most people, it involves a combination of

the two. Social behaviors that come easily to

the average person such as smiling, making

conversation, maintaining eye contact, and a

relaxed posture are extremely difficult for

the shy person to achieve.

Making friends and attending social functions

may seem like a nightmare to a shy person. No

one wants to stand in the corner alone, but a

shy person may lack the ability to approach

new people.

You can learn how to overcome shyness and

build confidence by developing new habits and

social skills. Shy people may have to exert a

large amount of effort in order to start a

conversation or attend a party. Determination

is

a key factor in learning how to overcome

shyness.

5 Ways To Overcome Shyness:

1. Some of the components of shyness are lack

of self-confidence and anxiety around others,

difficulty carrying on a conversation, and a

lack of knowledge about the expected behavior

in social situations.

Shy people can be very intimidated by people

in general. Learning how to overcome shyness

may seem like an insurmountable task, but

help is available to you through several

sources.

2. You must first determine why you are shy.

There are always underlying reasons for the

way a person reacts in certain situations.

Next, try behaving in a confident manner in

private and practice until you begin to see

results in public. Walk confidently and speak

firmly and soon you'll find yourself behaving

the same confident way in social settings.

As ridiculous as it may seem, forcing

yourself to act as if you are not shy can be

very helpful in learning how to overcome

shyness altogether.

3. One way to boost your self-confidence is

to always look your best. Looking great makes

you feel great and does wonders for your

self-esteem.

Reduce your fear of rejection by always

imagining the worst outcome possible in every

social situation. Then if the outcome is less

traumatic than you imagine, you won't dwell

on the rejection near as much. Observing

strangers and acquaintances and how they

relate to others can be a great tool in

learning how to overcome shyness.

4. If you are having difficulty overcoming

shyness, join clubs or go to events that

interest you. It's a lot more comfortable to

engage in conversations with those who have

common interests.

The initial conversation will be much easier

since you'll already have a topic of

conversation that interests you both.

5. If you do not have the confidence to

approach someone new, then smile and try to

be approachable. Most people are receptive to

a smile and a friendly face.

You could also consider taking someone that

you are comfortable with along to lessen your

anxiety. Shy people are extremely reluctant

to take the risk of approaching new people.

If you want to learn how to overcome shyness,

you may have to make an effort to be outgoing

initially, but soon your new habits will

become natural and easy.

There are numerous resources available to you

if you need help overcoming shyness.

Professional advice and tips on how to

overcome shyness can be very beneficial if

you are having difficulty taking that first

step.

A few days back, in the midst of my chaotic

holiday shopping excursion, I decided to take

refuge in a pleasant nook of the mall. While

gathering my thoughts, I was presented with

the resonance of a confident woman. Her black

leather heeled boots well preceded her

appearance.

Once in view, I would guess she was midfifties,

dressed in form fitting jeans and a

flashy, collared blouse. Her boots allowed a

couple extra inches on her 5’2” height. She

came and went in a flurry with the other

holiday shoppers, but her essence lingered on

beyond the completion of my rest period. I

wondered what beliefs in herself did this

woman have to carry herself such an assured

manner.

Out of curiosity, how do you feel when you

see another woman walking confidently past

you? I am sure that you have had privy to a

similar scene - she is taking long strides

with her shoulders back and chin up as she

strolls on down the way.

Sometimes you may think she is attractive

(but don’t want to admit it), other times you

may think ‘what the heck is she so proud of?’

Does it ever irritate you that another woman

might think that she is…as my little sister

says…”All That”?

Confidence in one’s appearance does not

equate to vanity, nor does it equate to being

condescending or arrogant. In fact,

confidence is something that we, as moms and

aging women, should all indulge in on a

frequent basis. When we learn to look into

ourselves to find what is right with us, we

will begin to find the same steadfast gait

within ourselves.

Instead of becoming irritated with those who

exude confidence, we will begin to relate to

the feeling. To reiterate a popular cliché,

when our faces are toward the sunshine, we

will not see the shadows. This can be likened

to finding happiness within ourselves instead

of pointing shameful fingers at unsuspecting

passer-bys.

Building confidence can start with

achievement. When was the last time you made

a goal and stuck to it? I would like to

believe that near the top of your list is the

ideal of being fit and healthy. Let’s take

this one and run with it.

When I wrote Mom Looks Great, I wanted the

moms who participated in the fitness program

to have the option of this same confident

walk as well as many other benefits upon the

completion of Phase III, if not throughout

the entire process and well into the

maintenance stage. I wanted the reader’s kids

to notice that their Mom looks great! I

wanted ‘dad’ or ‘significant other’ to

acknowledge - “Yeah…Mom does looks great!” So

what aside from the body does that “looks

great” phrase entail?

Looking great is also the spirit within you

that transcends your superficial flesh. It is

your aura, your charisma and your soul. This

is why exercise and nutrition play such a

vital role in helping you achieve your goal

of looking great.

When you begin a healthy fitness program you

begin to look great even before the weight

drops and the muscles tone.

When you live this lifestyle, the changes

began almost immediately! You will begin to

sleep better at night (diminishing dark

circles under the eyes), you will have more

energy in the following days (gone are the

tired grimaces when someone initiates

movement) and deep inside your brain, the

endorphins are throwing a jubilant

celebration (therein lies your improved

moods).

This is also what ‘looks great’ has to offer.

The resulting weight loss and muscle tonality

will come, but long after you already have a

shine to your skin and a feel-good smile on

your face. Even in these early stages people

will begin to notice.

So then what do you do with the flattering

comments people begin to give to you? When

someone says you look great, do you

graciously accept the compliment or do you

find an excuse to deflect it? Even in our

worst moments, a stray compliment could find

its way to us and we need to be prepared to

accept it with enthusiasm.

From this day forward, every compliment you

receive YOU MUST accept with a smile and a

thank you. After reading this article you are

no longer allowed to counter compliments with

self-putdowns such as “Ugh, [this excuse that

you are wrong]” or “Oh, [I know you don’t

mean that]”.

Remember that looking great is not always

about the perfect body, the sharpest clothes

or the healthiest hair. It is how you are

perceived by those around you. Take your

compliment and use it as a building block to

your confidence.

Thinking back to the unknown female with the

self-assured walk, how could you attain that

same confidence? Begin with keeping your

thoughts focused on your goals and the

optimism of attaining them.

Follow it up with exercise and nutrition on a

consistent basis and top it off with the

sheer acceptance of all compliments, whether

you feel they are justifiable or not. Feel

proud about strutting your self wherever you

may be. Sure, some people may feel irritated

just like you once may have been, but some

will think that mom looks great.

In the end, feel happy for the woman who can

convey confidence. You never know the trials

she has endured in her life.

Whether she nearly folded from a devastating

divorce, endured painful suffering from a

terrible disease or even struggled for years

to lose a detrimental amount of body fat.

Whatever her story, she finally feels a sense

of victory. And, unbeknownst to you, inside

she has also probably gained a true inner

beauty that is evident only by those who know

her well.

This is the bonus book that comes with "How A

Pasty White Computer Nerd Got 14 Hot Dates In

47 Days With Online Dating".

In this short guide I'm going to show you a

few things that will get you up to speed with

what's cool right now if you're not sure

yourself.

So let's begin.

I have what I call first date shirts. Shirts

that I always wear when I'm going on a date

with a girl in a casual location. (Which I

suggest you do! Nothing fancy!)

You can view some of the shirts I own by

following the links below.

These shirts look great with cargo pants and

a hat, or with a long sleeved shirt

underneath.

I understand music is very diverse and

everyone has different tastes, but when it

comes to dating, there are certain genres

that work wonders with the ladies.

Go and pick up any of the following and play

them when you have ladies over.

- Chill out sessions

- Moby

- DJ Tiesto

- Enya

- Michael Buble

- Paul Van Dyk

- Anything from the Ministry Of Sound Label!

- Area 7

- ATB

These are mood setting cd's.

If you want something to get you pumped up

while you are driving in your car to a first

date, try these.

- Pennywise

- Jimmy Eat World

- 666

- Scooter

- MXPX

- Nirvana

- Soundtrack To The Matrix's

- Soundtrack To Troy